Holy Cross Cupid
Question:
I just found out my class crush has a girlfriend </3. How do I get over my crush and be normal? I don’t want to be a homewrecker, but I want to get to know them. Help!
Answer:
What a classic class crush plot twist. Unfortunately, with how often this happens, I think it is now a recognized core requirement at Holy Cross. Although letting go of your class crush definitely hurts, the best thing to do is respect his relationship and distance yourself from him. You are worthy of someone who is solely interested in you, and respecting other people’s boundaries is always the right thing to do.
I know it’s tough considering your class crush might be the only reason why you have perfect attendance for your 8 AM Calculus class, but there are only a few more weeks left in the semester. There is no guaranteed method to getting over a class crush—because if there were, I would be teaching it as a Montserrat course! Time is the only thing that will make the crush fade.
Give yourself some grace, considering you did not know he was in a relationship all semester. Still, I advise you to respect his relationship and avoid pursuing him, because if you were the one dating him, you would want others to respect your relationship too. Of course, you can still be civil, but it’s best to avoid being flirtatious or trying to get to know him, especially since you know he has a girlfriend. Most likely, your feeling of guilt about saying something to him is a sign that you know deep down that you are crossing a line. It’s unfortunate that he’s taken, but don’t worry — class selection period is this week! You never know who will be in your spring semester classes…
Stay hopeful!
Love,
Holy Cross Cupid
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