Holy Cross Cupid
Question:
Over Thanksgiving Break, I naturally reconnected with an old fling from my high school and we ended up hooking up. I’m starting to like him a lot, but there are some red flags and I’m not sure what he’s looking for. I feel like it’s a way too early to ask “what are we” or even what he’s looking for, but, I know we wanna continue to see each other when I’m back for winter break and I wanna know what I’m in for. What should I do?
Answer:
Ah, the classic Thanksgiving reunion. From what you shared, it seems like you’re deeply invested in this connection, which is why it might be best for you to take a step back and figure out what you’re genuinely looking for in a relationship. Put yourself first—because the lack of clarity you are experiencing can be emotionally draining.
If his actions aren’t giving you a hint of “All I Want For Christmas Is You,” it might be worth reevaluating how much effort you are putting in the relationship. Healthy relationships tend to work best when both partners contribute equally, so consider whether he is putting in the effort to work toward a committed relationship. Simple gestures like taking you out to dinner in public or introducing you to friends could be strong indications that he is serious about your relationship.
You mentioned noticing some red flags, so it might be helpful to reflect on whether or not they contrast with your values to the point that a long-term relationship might not be feasible. Given that the relationship is non-exclusive, I would suggest you put in the effort you find comfortable while respecting your own boundaries. If you still feel confused after a couple more weeks, I would recommend talking about it in person.
I hope you and your hometown crush are looking for the same thing and that you return home from the hill just in time for a wondrous winter love story as heartwarming as a classic Hallmark Movie. You deserve to find a partner who meets you where you are and shares your level of commitment. Best of luck!
Love,
Holy Cross Cupid
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